I look forward to these. Our coffee chats are therapeutic for me. Life has been moving so fast that I haven’t even made it to the past two coffee dates.
Well, happy Sunday and good morning. I’m so happy we are able to catch up and chat again. Hope you have a nice hot cup of joe or whatever drink you enjoy. I’m just sitting here, coffee in hand, letting myself breathe. Taking a beep. Because lately, I’ve needed to.
Always on the Go
The last few weeks have been a whirlwind. I feel like my life will always feel that way no because, the truth is, I’m living without my husband. And the days apart keep growing, stretching further and further without my person.
I’m so used to just going, going, going. I don’t stop. When I say I don’t stop, I mean I am always on the go. I know this about myself, and yet, slowing down still feels unnatural.
I can hear Fuad telling me to rest. I remember the times he would literally pull me to the couch and say, “Just sit here with me. You can’t do everything all at once.” He saw me. He cared for me. I miss him.
And now, I have to be even more intentional with myself because there is no one else to tell me to slow down.
To just be still.
To remember that things will eventually get done.
Creating a New System
I’ve been having a lot of conversations with myself about how to get things done without overworking myself.
Both Ash and Asiyah’s rooms were a mess, full of things that no longer served them – clothes, shoes, toys. Normally, I’d try to power through and do it all at once. Instead, I set a time. Thirty minutes a day for each room. That’s it.
And you know what? It worked.
Waking up to a clean space feels different. It feels lighter. It makes it easier to be present instead of overwhelmed.
Now, I’m making it a habit. Before bed, Ash spends 15 minutes straightening up his play area. I do the same with Asiyah, teaching her how to clean up. Let’s be real, I’ll be doing most of it. Baby steps with baby girl, you know?
I’ve also been keeping the front areas of the house clean by straightening up at night or first thing in the morning. My mom has been a huge help, and I don’t take that for granted.
I don’t know how long this system of mine will last, but I am determined to make it last.
Taking a Beep
I’ve realized something. The way I was functioning was not sustainable. But by doing things in small increments, I don’t just wake up feeling like a huge to-do list is hanging over my head.
My mind slows down.
I have more time for me. More time for my kids. More time to just be.
I don’t have all the answers, but I do know this.
I am choosing to pause.
To take a breath.
To remind myself that even if it’s just for a moment, stillness is okay.
And I want this to serve as a reminder to you, too. Whether you have kids or not, life moves fast. It’s okay to take a beep. To pause. To breathe.
What’s something small you do to slow down? Let’s chat in the comments.
With love,
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